i dont think it's actually meta, this is a problem in all of internet-wide transfem culture
OKAY YES ABSOLUTELY IVE BEEN SAYING THIS IN PRIVATE FOR A LONG TIME AAAAA
i dont mean this as anti anyones relationships or freedom or anything i mean this to say the "transfems fuck to say hello" culture may work for some of you but many of us feel INCREDIBLY uncomfortable with that pressure and boundary violation the instant we start getting to know someone. our system is VERY CLEAR about our boundaries all over the place, in our bios, we post about it regularly... theres fun consenting friend flirting, and then theres the obvious "no, this is meant to go somewhere" stuff and AAAAAA NO. existing as a transfem does not mean consenting to sexual pressure. consent is an active process, not a passive one. people whose boundaries are different and who consent to that can say so in their bio, i should not have to live under a "yes until she says otherwise" consent model
god fucking hell
RE: https://wetdry.world/users/ezra/statuses/112775108649934817